Disappointments follow success like fatigue replaces exertion. It is unavoidable. When the idea to create a home business first enters your mind, the goal for success becomes part of the vision. Along the journey, you will face frustration, discouragement, and disappointment before your efforts are rewarded. The key to fulfilling your dream is to not give up when failure arrives (and it will).
Don’t let the disappointments of creating a work at home business get you down. Learn from them. Making money online can happen if you have the right mindset. After all, everything comes down to your perspective.
From time to time we all lose the big sale we thought was in the bag or have a good client leave. Yes, this too shall pass but better than words of encouragement, how about a process to make the most of this?
You’ll find that your own realizations are the most encouraging words you could hear. Work this process to dust yourself off, get up and back into the game. Below is a list of 3 ways to learn from disappointment in business:
1). Don’t talk about your disappointment and make it more than it is. Don’t blame anyone. It is what it is. Instead go off in nature somewhere, sit down, breath deeply and just allow the feelings to come up and pass through your body. Be with those feelings fully without attaching a thought to them. Disappointing circumstances don’t have to remain with you any longer than you want them to. By breathing deeply and reconnecting with nature you’ll naturally let go and be refreshed.
2). When ready know this; all things conspire for your good. There is much to learn from every disappointment. When one door closes others open. This too shall pass and you’re perspective will soon change. You know that from past disappointment. You always get over it. Take heart in knowing that all things do happen for a very good reason.
3). Answer these powerful questions. Sit down with pad and paper and then write two columns.
Column A – What are all the things I’ve learned about this that I can adjust in the future?
Column B – What’s really good about this decision?
Keep writing until you have at least five responses to each question.
4). Keep asking what else? Keep adding y to your list until you’ve accessed all of your inner wisdom. You’ll be amazed at the results. That was one of the most impactful steps that outdoor lighting in St. Louis did to overcome loss in their business
This process works when used in order one through four. You’ll feel fresh enthusiasm coming back into your being. You’ll see the new opportunities to refine your process and adjust your approach, soon after you complete the process.
When you begin to feel better congratulate yourself for making the best out of a situation that could have kept you down.
Business Disappointments and Business Success – Two Lessons Along the Journey
Two Pull Principle/Law of Attraction lessons can be taken from this experience. Both will enable the client to become even more successful in an even shorter amount of time.
1. The three events are major pieces of Contrast. Sure, they don’t feel great, but that’s the whole idea of contrast: it shows you how far off you are from what you ideally would like to happen. The emotion you feel is “the gap” between your current reality and your desired reality. In the client’s case, the rough version of her ideal reality was twofold: not only does she want an affiliate partner who delivers high profile companies to her, she also wants those high profile companies to work with her! The disappointment she felt three times was that gap between the “current reality” (no connection), and the “future reality” (profitable connections).
The only real lesson that needs to be taken from this contrast-experience? Get even clearer about what it is you truly want! Obviously, it is not: more disappointments; so what is it? Well, in this case, it could be affiliate partners with more successful appointment setting techniques. Or: more personal control over communication with high-profile partners, so I don’t have to go through intermediaries. Or anything else that is “better feeling” than the current reality experience. My client immediately grasped what she wanted: more personal control and -obviously- profitable relationships.
In Neuro Linguistic Programming it is said this way: there is never the failure, only feedback. And it is exactly so. The feedback you are given each time you experience “contrast” allows you to modify your desire and game plan, so next time around you will have an improved experience (which will provide new contrast, more clarity, improved experiences, etc).
2. Positive expectations CAN be deadly, in the sense that they can completely stifle your enthusiasm and drive for what you are doing when they are not met.
Expectations are what they are: thoughts about something happening in the future, or not. When you like your expectations, you’re all buzzed (a great business deal happening; a great holiday coming up); when you don’t like them, you’re anxious (a business venture going wrong; a massive bill for a car repair). When good expectations turn into reality, you feel great. If they don’t come about, you are on the emotional roller coaster.
The lesson is this: stay away from getting too attached to the outcome of your expectations. Be goal driven, but not goal addicted.
That sounds paradoxical, but it isn’t. Having positive expectations (as in expecting your desires and goals to turn to reality) is a good thing, and should be part of your “thought tool box”. The seeming paradox lies in the fact that the expectations have nothing to do with the actual materialization of your desires, but more with the FEELING you will experience on the journey towards and after their materialization. It’s ultimately the good feeling you are after, not the outcome of your goals themselves, or the way you are going to get there.